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“Heartfelt and ever-endearing—equal parts information and inspiration. This is a book to keep by your bedside and return to often.”—Amy Dickinson, nationally syndicated advice columnist "Ask Amy"

More than one thousand extraordinary Americans share their stories and the wisdom they have gained on living, loving, and finding happiness.

After a chance encounter with an extraordinary ninety-year-old woman, renowned gerontologist Karl Pillemer began to wonder what older people know about life that the rest of us don''t.

His quest led him to interview more than one thousand Americans over the age of sixty-five to seek their counsel on all the big issues- children, marriage, money, career, aging. Their moving stories and uncompromisingly honest answers often surprised him. And he found that he consistently heard advice that pointed to these thirty lessons for living. Here he weaves their personal recollections of difficulties overcome and lives well lived into a timeless book filled with the hard-won advice these older Americans wish someone had given them when they were young.

Like  This I Believe, StoryCorps''s  Listening Is an Act of Love, and  Tuesdays with Morrie30 Lessons for Living is a book to keep and to give. Offering clear advice toward a more fulfilling life, it is as useful as it is inspiring.

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"Skillfully weaves a prevailing theme (e.g., parenting, aging fearlessly) with self-disclosing statements from interviewees to create a compelling, inspirational book." Library Journal (starred review; one of the Top Self-Help Books of 2011)

"Thank you, Dr. Pillemer, for gathering all this wisdom in one book before it is lost. I can''t imagine anyone whose life will not be enriched by this book." —Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of  When Bad Things Happen to Good People

"The ''Wisest Americans'' have a lot to teach the rest of us. Some of this advice is refreshing common sense. Much of it is truly surprising. It is always heartfelt and ever-endearing - equal parts information and inspiration. This is a book to keep by your bedside and return to often." —Amy Dickinson, nationally sundicated advice columnist "Ask Amy"

"This is a fabulous book! Karl Pillemer has done an incredible job of bringing together the collective wisdom of hundreds of Americans into an entertaining, thought provoking, and practical book. Give it a read. You will find yourself getting out of bed in the morning with new enthusiasm." —Matthew Kelly, author of  The Rhythm of Life and  Off Balance

"An absolute gem! Thank you Karl Pillemer for taking the time to collect such a valuable trove of wisdom, and for sharing it with us in such a readable book. It''s one that I''ll recommend often. All of it is wonderful, but I particularly appreciated the lessons on honesty and saying yes to opportunities. Read this book you''ll get more out of life and have fewer regrets." —Hal Urban, author of  Life''s Greatest Lessons

"If you want to hear the wisdom of the aged, this easy-to-read book, based on years of penetrating interviews by a prominent sociologist, tells you what they have learned about love, work, marriage, and parenting." —Howard S. Friedman, Ph.D. & Leslie R. Martin, Ph.D., authors of  The Longevity Project

"For five years, Karl Pillemer sat down with more than 1,000 older Americans-most of them between the ages of 70 and 100-to talk about lessons for living well. In the resulting book,  30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice From the Wisest Americans,... Pillemer, a gerontologist at Cornell, has culled 30 life lessons from his "experts," ranging from the practical to the profound. How to raise children? How to think about dying? Think of this book as 1,000 borrowed grandparents weighing in on life''s various challenges. A salty pragmatism runs throughout." The Daily Beast

About the Author

Karl Pillemer, PhD, is the founder and director of the Cornell Institute for Translational Research on Aging, a center that works to increase public awareness of aging research. Dr. Pillemer has authored more than one hundred scientific publications, and has spoken widely throughout the world on issues of successful aging, family relationships, and elder care.

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Fuad R Qubein
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How to Tap the Wisdom and Experience of the Elderly?
Reviewed in the United States on July 27, 2018
Throughout history, humans have been searching for a better way to live their lives - an easier and more meaningful way, materially and spiritually. In their search, this book entitled ’30 Lessons for Living’ by the gerontologist Dr. K. Pillemer, must be a welcome... See more
Throughout history, humans have been searching for a better way to live their lives - an easier and more meaningful way, materially and spiritually. In their search, this book entitled ’30 Lessons for Living’ by the gerontologist Dr. K. Pillemer, must be a welcome source. The book is unique in its approach; it is based on tapping the wisdom of the elders in the society who lived and experienced life fully and are willing to share their experience and knowledge with the new generations.

How does one approach such a project? The author''s plan was to ensure that all participants are 65 years and over. To be meaningful, the number of participants should be around 1000 and should be from various sectors of the society. In this study the average age of the candidates ranged between 74 and 80 Years. To ensure a proper sociological approach, the study was carried out in cooperation with Cornell University (Ithaca, NY) and was subject to its approval.

The purpose of the project was to try to gain some insight into the experience of those elders and to see how to make it beneficial for the new generations. Here is a brief sample of the questions asked: What was your most important lesson for living that you wish to pass on to the new generations? What is your advice to them regarding marriage, raising children , health and careers? What were your core values and principles ? What would you advise them about aging gracefully?

Although this project was carefully studied and implemented, and attracted much attention, yet, looking back critically, it leaves some questions in the mind of the reader concerning its practicality. If the core issue is to make it useful to new generations, what assurance have we that the issues encountered by the elders, say some 70 years ago, will still be applicable to the conditions of the new generations today? Have we not witnessed the overwhelming changes that have taken place in the last century in almost all walks of life?

A more serious issue is the current gap between the elders and the new generations. As several interviewees confessed in later comments: The new generations have become convinced that we, the elders, are irrelevant and our views are archaic. Many sociologists seem to agree and ask: How often do we see young groups seeking the advice of, or even socializing with, the elders? Sadly, those wise and experienced elders who could be so useful to their society, are now more and more ignored and sidelined.

Fuad R Qubein
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D. Kanigan
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Life is short...
Reviewed in the United States on February 4, 2012
At 20, I wouldn''t have read it. I was in a hurry - learning, climbing. Mortality? Huh? At 30, it''s family, career and it''s obligations - no time to contemplate. Little time to read. At 40, I''m beginning to settle, mind is opening - I might have given this book a... See more
At 20, I wouldn''t have read it. I was in a hurry - learning, climbing. Mortality? Huh? At 30, it''s family, career and it''s obligations - no time to contemplate. Little time to read. At 40, I''m beginning to settle, mind is opening - I might have given this book a glance. But I''m wary. At x0, (I can''t believe it or say it or type it). Where did the years go? My eyes are WIDE OPEN. I''m locked in on this book. Not sure how I tripped into the book. (Coincidence? Deepak Sharma would say Not.) I read an Amazon review where the reviewer described the book as "Profound." Really? How many top-10-list self-help books have I read? Not sure I can recall one lesson from these books. I was skeptical. (Highly). And I was wrong. (Again)

There is an estimated $1 billion spent each year on self-improvements books in the U.S. And more advice columns, television experts, and websites - all preaching advice of one sort or another. Yet none of them speak from experience of having lived and learned. Karl Pillemer, the author and a gerontologist at Cornell, interviewed more than 1,000 older Americans between the ages of 70 to 100 in search of lessons for living. He spent over 5 years on the project and summarized his findings in this book. Lessons range from:

* Lessons for a Happy Marriage (Marry Someone a Lot Like You; Friendship is Important; Don''t Keep Score; Talk to Each Other; Commit to Marriage not just your Partner)

* Lessons for a Successful and Fulfilling Career (Seek Intrinsic Rewards, not financial ones; Don''t give up looking for a job you love; Make the Most of a Bad Job, Emotional Intelligence Trumps all; Everyone needs autonomy)

* Lessons for Parenting (It''s all about time; It''s normal to have favorites but don''t show it; Don''t Hit Your Kids; Avoid A Rift At All Costs; Take A Lifelong View of Relationships with Children)

* Lessons For Aging Fearlessly and Well (Being Old is Much Better than you think; Act Now Like You will need your body for 100 years; Don''t Worry About Dying; Stay Connected to others; Plan ahead where you will live)

* Lessons For Living a Life Without Regrets (Always be honest; Say Yes to Opportunities; Travel More; Choose a Mate with Extreme Care; Say It Now before it is too late)

* Lessons for Living Like an Expert (Choose Happiness; Time is of the Essence; Happiness is a Choice, not a condition; Time Spent Worrying is Wasted; Think Small; Have Faith; Live by the Golden Rule)

I was deeply moved by this book. I found myself being pulled along - with skepticism being stripped down to bare bones of belief as I turned the pages. He''s on to something. The power of this book is in the stories and the anecdotes of the "experts" (the term he uses to describe the elders who are interviewed for his research). The voices of experts are calm...peaceful...learned...zen-like. The author weaves lessons and stories gently throughout - - a slow moving stream making its way south.

Highly Recommended.
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CityGardener
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Great premise for a book
Reviewed in the United States on October 14, 2014
Great premise for a book. I''m so glad this was written. I enjoyed it and gave a copy to my mother, who is 90 years old, and she too is enjoying it very much. The responses are broken down so that they can be digested as a self-help book - that''s not what I enjoyed most... See more
Great premise for a book. I''m so glad this was written. I enjoyed it and gave a copy to my mother, who is 90 years old, and she too is enjoying it very much. The responses are broken down so that they can be digested as a self-help book - that''s not what I enjoyed most about it. I enjoyed this as a collection of reflections, selected from hundreds, of people who find themselves content at the end of their days, and had certainty about what parts of their lives were feel their lives were and were not well-lived.
Though I would like to have heard more of those voices, and less of Dr. Pillemer''s voice, I recommend this book to anyone at any age. It makes me wonder what my generation, particularly my peers who grew up as children of divorces and so were working on their relationships from a different point of reference than most of the experts in this book, will have to say about our relationships and marriages, and the kind of advice we''ll give about to the next generation about love when we''re in our 80''s and upwards.
I hope someone will follow in Dr. Karl A. Pillemer''s path, and keep this wonderful work up. Enjoy!
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Shirley H. Showalter
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Wisdom from Elders -- and from a Gerontologist Who Also Knows How to Tell Good Stories
Reviewed in the United States on April 24, 2015
Dr. Pillemer has gathered some wonderful advice from America''s senior citizens -- he prefers to call them experts, and I do too. This book would make an excellent graduation or wedding present for young people who want to benefit from the experience of the older... See more
Dr. Pillemer has gathered some wonderful advice from America''s senior citizens -- he prefers to call them experts, and I do too. This book would make an excellent graduation or wedding present for young people who want to benefit from the experience of the older generation.

The subjects addressed are marriage, career, parenting, aging, regrets, happiness, and the importance of listening. I like the way that thousands of interviews with real people became 5 lessons at the end of each chapter. It''s not easy to make a mountain of data into digestible information useful to the general public.

This is academic research with direct application to the real world. I hope many read and heed.
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Amanda Michayla
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Very inspirational
Reviewed in the United States on January 12, 2014
The books can at time be redundant but from what I have read so far, I want to keep reading because every time I have to put it down I feel a little more enlightened and inspired. I don''t know if it is life changing but I have always had an appreciation for the words and... See more
The books can at time be redundant but from what I have read so far, I want to keep reading because every time I have to put it down I feel a little more enlightened and inspired. I don''t know if it is life changing but I have always had an appreciation for the words and life experience of my elders having worked at an assisted living residence as my first job after high school through college. Possibly my favorite job prior to the one I have now. The people you meet truly touch your life and that''s what I like about this book, it feels like words from someone you know and admire. It gives you hope to know that there are people out there who have gone through worse than anyone I know and they have come out happy and fulfilled with life. That is what I am looking forward to. I hope to make the time I have in this life count and leave some wisdom and goodness behind.
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Rick.Henry Sr.
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Very interesting read, it keeps you going on to the next page.
Reviewed in the United States on May 26, 2021
This book contains some very important life lessons from individuals that have lived them. It''s a valuable resource for insight into many opportunities that life presents to us all and the importance of taking the time to ensure we choose wisely. I highly recommend this... See more
This book contains some very important life lessons from individuals that have lived them. It''s a valuable resource for insight into many opportunities that life presents to us all and the importance of taking the time to ensure we choose wisely. I highly recommend this book to everyone of all ages that are looking to expand their own minds and opportunities to continue to grow.
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R. King
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Inspirational and practical, and entertaining to boot!
Reviewed in the United States on July 10, 2012
I almost never read advice or self-help books. While this book technically falls into that category, it is, in my estimation, miles apart from most such books. This book grew out of a five-year research project with about 1200 older Americans, so it''s not some expert du... See more
I almost never read advice or self-help books. While this book technically falls into that category, it is, in my estimation, miles apart from most such books. This book grew out of a five-year research project with about 1200 older Americans, so it''s not some expert du jour spouting forth his opinions on how to live your life. Nor is it a book of inspirational essays that leave you feeling good for a few minutes, but with no real tools to change your life.

The book is broken down into six themes, including love, work, parenting, and minimizing life regrets, with five key lessons within each theme. The lessons are distilled from interviews with older Americans and reflect themes that emerged in the course of the many interviews. Each chapter has a "refrigerator list" at the end summarizing each lesson in a few take-away words.

It would be a mistake to read the refrigerator lists and skip the rest of the chapter, though. The book is well-organized and clearly written, entertaining, yet with practical suggestions for benefiting from the hard-won wisdom of our elders. There are just enough anecdotes to vividly illustrate the lessons, but not so many that the lessons get lost in them. It''s an easy read, but a substantive one.

I am so glad that I chanced to read about this book in a travel magazine. My niece and nephews in their twenties and early thirties can expect to receive copies as gifts.
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PussCat
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Should be Issued at birth to everyone
Reviewed in the United States on December 18, 2013
If ever there was a User''s Guide To Life, this would be it. I cannot think of anyone who would not benefit enormously from this. As you read, the subject''s narratives will jolt you with thoughts of " I know what they mean" which helps the reader to realize that... See more
If ever there was a User''s Guide To Life, this would be it. I cannot think of anyone who would not benefit enormously from this. As you read, the subject''s narratives will jolt you with thoughts of " I know what they mean" which helps the reader to realize that the events that they have not yet experienced are very well explained by those that have. This validity makes the book a true goldmine, and a real source of advice. Some of the most wrenching events these wisest Americans have endured will serve as a wonderful map for the reader to use as navigation when they face the same events. Not one of the individuals interviewed is self-impressed, nor are they endlessly angry, though some have the right to be. They managed to overcome that and that alone is worth the price of the book.
I urge you to buy a copy.
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Stephen McAteer
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Sage advice in here.
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on September 19, 2019
This book contains lots of good advice for living. It''s well-written. The author''s voice doesn''t intrude too much on the snippets from the interviewees. He also interprets well what they have to say, without being too naff. Although the book is American and the people in it...See more
This book contains lots of good advice for living. It''s well-written. The author''s voice doesn''t intrude too much on the snippets from the interviewees. He also interprets well what they have to say, without being too naff. Although the book is American and the people in it are Americans, the advice applies universally. I recommend this book.
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Joseph G.
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Quite Interesting
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 1, 2020
Easy to read and to follow....Quite interesting topics. Definitely a must read
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D. Withington
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Invaluable Advice from Experts
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on June 20, 2013
To get such a combined amount of wisdom and experience, and put it all together into one book, is quite a feat. But I''m glad it was done. I really enjoyed this book. Even better, I gained some valuable life wisdom from it. As well as writing about the wisdom of life lived,...See more
To get such a combined amount of wisdom and experience, and put it all together into one book, is quite a feat. But I''m glad it was done. I really enjoyed this book. Even better, I gained some valuable life wisdom from it. As well as writing about the wisdom of life lived, the book contains lots of direct quotations from people who have lived life to the full. And it''s not just success stuff; there''s so much to learn from people''s mistakes too. Very well written - and highly recommended.
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Giorgio Federico
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Wisdom for a few dollars
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on January 5, 2014
I liked the idea of interviewing elders on a number of subjects and asking them what valuable lessons they had learnt during their lives. In a world full of inconsistencies, this book is very consistent with its good feel message and its golden rule which is...well, I would...See more
I liked the idea of interviewing elders on a number of subjects and asking them what valuable lessons they had learnt during their lives. In a world full of inconsistencies, this book is very consistent with its good feel message and its golden rule which is...well, I would not want to spoil for the author. Just buy the book, it will not disappoint. I would like to see a similar book, however, giving a European perspective and I wonder if the conclusions would be the same. A good piece of work which gave me many pleasurable moments with some of the heart rending stories within it.
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Raul Haavala
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Lovely book
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on October 16, 2013
Message of the book isn''t that far from regular self-help books - but as the message comes from old people - it has some extra value and some messages that especially young people should think about. Great read - can fully recommend.
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